Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Finding Myself (and Happiness) Again

There's something wonderful about loving something so much you want to share it with the world.  I still remember the excitement as I published my first post here at Disney Donna Kay.  I thought I had conquered the world.  Boy was I naive.

I didn't care if I had one person other than myself read that post, I was officially a blogger.  Mike didn't even know about my little blog, it was all mine and I could say or do whatever I wanted with it.  It was like my baby.  As a matter of fact no one knew, not my kids or my sisters or anyone.  Then after Auburn won the 2010 National Championship I posted their fight song and got a comment from Beth of A Disney Mom's Thoughts.  Little did I know that comment would literally change my blogging life.  Through Beth I met other Disney bloggers - I had no idea there were so many - and became part of a community, actually a second family who shared my love of all things Disney.

But, as with most things, with the good comes the bad.  I also learned about SEO, bounce rates, links, trackbacks - you get the idea.  Suddenly my little blog, my hobby, became something I never meant for it to be.  I changed my blog design to make it easier to read, I spent hours researching what the Blogging experts had to say, then I made the biggest mistake of all I started writing just to try to get numbers up.  I stopped writing from my heart - I wrote from a numbers perspective.  Let me tell you, I am not a numbers person, math was my worst subject - by far.  I am an off the cuff, from the heart person - one who was never meant to be the "it" kid in our community.  I somehow lost Donna Kay in search of higher numbers and popularity on the world wide web.

Yep, this is me - at 50 I am finally embracing my true self.
Now that I have bored you to death, what I want to say is I am going back to my roots, my happiness.  I am finding Donna Kay again.   Let me reintroduce you to her.  She is a mom to Ashley and Dakota (the two most amazing kids on the planet), wife to Mike (and our marriage gets better with time - I am very lucky), an Auburn Tigers fan (War Eagle), an Atlanta Braves fan, a Disney fan, a crafter and a party planner who will never be able to throw all of the parties that pop into her head.  But beyond all that I am an optimist who has an unexplainable need for everyone to like me and make everyone around me happy. I dote over people and like taking care of my friends and family. I over promise and stress myself out trying to meet those expectations I placed on myself.  I do my best work under pressure and at the last minute.  I am fiercely protective of my family and friends so you better not mess with them or you will have to answer to me.  I have a potty mouth when I am mad or totally stressed (especially about money).  I can be very scary when I am mad (I tend to yell), but I get over it pretty quick.  I am also very vulnerable and can have my feelings easily hurt, I think that comes from having a giving spirit, I always expect other to be the same way.

I want to say thank you Beth from Pursuing the Magic for reminding me that the real me is just fine and that it was time for me to find her again.  Sometimes friends say the most wonderful things without even realizing the impact a simple statement can make in someones life.

I can't end this post without mentioning my friend Donna from DIStherapy.  She is an inspiration to me everyday.  I promise I am going to participate in a runDisney event someday, if for no other reason than getting to meet my fabulously supportive friend in person.  I still want to be you when I grow up. :)

So there you have it, my heart on my sleeve - which is who I am and finally I am unapologetic about it.

Have a Magical Day!!
Donna Kay

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    1. Your friendship is one of the best things about starting my blog!! Don't know what I would do without you!!

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  2. Don't ever apologize for being YOU! You are awesome!

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  3. Beautiful post! Sometimes we need to take a step back to find out what really matters in life. You do your thing!

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    1. Thanks Lisa - lots more parties and crafting on the way. I am coming to you for a guest party post SOON!!

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  4. I did the same thing with my first blog. So when I started my new one, I didn't even link to Statcounter or any other tracker. I have no idea how many are reading my blog now and don't care! I'm having fun again and that's what counts. Glad to see you broke free of the Blogging Trap!

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    1. Thanks Lee - it feels like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.

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  5. You are right. Life is to short to not do what you are passionate about. So keep doing what makes you happy!!

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  6. I can't even see my keyboard right now. Good thing I know where the keys are without looking! As my tear stream down my face, I'm can honestly say I'm so proud of you! It took a lot for you to do what you did and I admire you for it. I'm so so so very happy you are a part of my life! I know, no matter what, i can turn to you with anything. You are amazing. Thank you for being you and being true to yourself!
    War Eagle and much love! :)

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    1. War Eagle my friend!! It will always have a very special meaning where you are concerned. Our friendship means a lot to me, and yes you can always depend on me. I promise to watch my potty mouth around you, although I can't imagine you ever doing anything to upset me.

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  7. Donna, I enjoyed reading this post so much. I'm incredibly happy to have come in contact with you and your blog. Blogging is such a special experience, since I get to meet wonderful people like you. It is so hard to not get caught up in numbers, as I know a bad numbers day tends to lead me to have bad feelings about my own self worth. I have to tell you that I absolutely love your party ideas and can't wait to see more. You're a wonderful blogger and I'm learning from you with every post! Thank you!

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    1. Thanks Amy, we know a pretty awesome group of Disney bloggers - and we are so lucky to all have each other. I am definitely not saying I will never look at numbers again (I have to be honest) but I refuse to let them dictate what I choose to post any more.

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  8. "Be you because everyone else is taken." I'm so proud of you for writing this post. It's so easy to lose yourself in this great big blogging world, where it seems like everything is a competition. I just recently learned this lesson as well ... I recently wrote a post about rejection and my friends encouraged me to just keep on being me. The blogging support community is awesome! If you keep writing as yourself, and keep being genuine, your following will grow. It may not grow as fast as you think it "should" but your real friends will find you!

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    1. Thanks Mindy, I would rather have a few real friends that be the most popular person in the world. I know the true value of my blog can be measured by the wonderful friends it has brought into my life.

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  9. I loved reading this and in many ways feel the same way. I love that I have made some really great friends thru blogging and I consider you one of my first way back when I started I think almost 3 years ago. You are a great friend and I love how much we both love OUAT. I think more and more doing what you love is important and forget about everything else - it will come along.

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    1. You know I love you Diane - and my OUAT pin is one of my prized possessions!! I can't wait until I get to WDW again so I can finally meet you in person!!

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